Therapy is a lot like school: there is homework. But, it's life homework. Presumably the kind of thing that makes us better versions of who we already are. I don't know. I haven't decided if there is truth to that but I'm doing the homework anyway. Because I've always been a tenacious student and I'll [...]
Category: Therapy Talks
The Power of the Gaze
Yesterday I went on another date. While she was lost in my eyes, I was lost in my head. My date, we will call her Sarah (not her real name), asked me a few moments before the aforementioned moment, "what happens in your head from the time we have deep meaningful conversations to the time [...]
You’ve Got to be Willing to Risk Failure
Tonight I realized two things: 1) If I want to see myself grow, I've got to be willing to risk failure. I have to be willing to venture into the unknown, to walk away from all my familiar surroundings. 2) For years, I have been adamant that I wouldn't believe in God because God was [...]
Fit or Mis-fit: Finding Harmony with Mental Illness
How often do you find yourself in situations where you just don't quite "fit"? I've been thinking about this a lot lately in terms of mental health, specifically Complex PTSD. I haven't said anything yet because I've still been trying to come to terms with what this means in the context of my life but [...]
Abstract Longings for What Might Be
TW: this blog will cover issues of rape/sexual assault, so if you're not feeling particularly safe and supported please take care before reading. Every year someone inevitably tells me: "You know, they say, 'whatever you are doing to bring in the new year is what you will be doing for the rest of the year.'" [...]
Learning to Trust; or How A Flat Tire Taught Me to Take a Leap of Faith
I have given this idea of trust as existing on a spectrum quite a lot more thought since yesterday when my therapist asked me what trust looks like. Apparently, trust isn't something I do well. It's not something I have given much thought beyond: people can't be trusted (this includes myself) and trust leads to [...]
When Hurt People, Hurt People
I'm about to do something I never do... post right after a therapy session and while I am still feeling raw about an experience I had today. Actually, an experience that has been prolonged for weeks. However, resolution was just achieved today. And, sometimes, resolution sucks. It's almost better being in limbo, not knowing if something is [...]
Just a Touch of Trust
I’m going to invite you briefly into my “morning routine.” It’s been a point of contention in my romantic relationships but it’s one thing I’m not willing to falter on because it’s a necessity for my continued functioning and productivity. I’d wilt like a flower with too much sun and not enough water otherwise. Each [...]
Ghostly Memories and Tangible Experience
Okay, so, I didn’t give you fair warning but you should know… sometimes my inspiration comes from shows like Grey’s Anatomy or This is Us. What can I say? I’m a sucker for TV drama. As it so happens today’s episode of Grey’s left me feeling particularly inspired for two reasons: one, the speech Avery gives on Grey’s behalf [...]
Wait, what?! Transference is real?!
I’ve been thinking a lot lately about this whole idea of transference. An idea which, I will tell you, is not easily defined. For me, it’s the idea that the kind of pains that have been conjured by others in our pasts are being played out in the therapeutic relationship. This can mean that we are being [...]
Her Patchwork Heart 
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